Reflections: Embracing Imperfection: My Journey to Self-Acceptance

Reflections: Embracing Imperfection: My Journey to Self-Acceptance

Last year, I encountered a rather unexpected piece of gossip circulating about me. Someone I used to work with suggested that I portrayed an image of being ‘perfect,’ an accusation that struck me deep. It’s not that I ever claimed to be flawless or carried myself in a way that suggested such. In fact, the idea of perfection has never been a part of my narrative. However, after taking some time for introspection, I realized that the comment may have been referring to my overall place in life.

I do admit to exuding confidence, but that confidence has been hard-earned through navigating the tumultuous waters of life. It’s a product of the challenges I’ve faced, the battles I’ve fought, and the personal growth that followed. The road to self-assurance is often paved with struggles and hardships, and mine is no exception. In terms of physical appearance, I’ve long accepted that I don’t fit the conventional standards of beauty. I don’t possess the classic features that society often deems attractive. And you know what? That’s perfectly fine. Physical appearance is important in certain aspects of life, especially in relationships where intimacy plays a role. However, I firmly believe that people fixated solely on physical appearance are missing the depth and substance that truly matter. A quick glance at my website, portfolio, and self-promotion strategies reveals that I prioritize authenticity and substance over superficiality.

Coming to terms with these aspects of myself wasn’t an overnight realization. The gossip about appearing ‘perfect’ stung because it seemed to undermine the years of hard work, introspection, and healing I’ve invested in myself over the past decade. I’ve actively worked on healing my inner child and undergoing a profound transformation. The accusation felt particularly jarring because, at the time, I had just emerged from a period that can only be described as hell – navigating a now former, challenging job and housing situation. If someone perceived me as ‘perfect’ in any way, it seems I’ve reached a point in my journey. However, the irony is not lost on me. Those who see themselves as imperfect are often wrestling with their own insecurities and uncertainties. 

In retrospect, the comment, though hurtful initially, became slightly amusing. To be accused of looking ‘perfect’ in the midst of overcoming my own personal hell was a testament to the resilience I had developed. It reinforced my understanding that judgments, especially those based on appearances, often lack depth and nuance. My journey has been one of embracing imperfection, both in character and appearance. I’ve come to appreciate the beauty in authenticity and the strength that arises from acknowledging and embracing one’s flaws. The road to self-acceptance is ongoing, but I am proud of the progress I’ve made and the person I’ve become through the trials and tribulations. I stand firm in the belief that our worth goes far beyond the surface, and true beauty lies in the authenticity of our stories and the strength we find in our vulnerabilities.

Kristi

Kristi Beisecker is a graphic designer, photographer, printmaker and alternative scientist whose interested in making images through two contrasting elements. She is also a blogger in lifestyle, travel, wellness and health, art and design, beauty and fashion.

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